Building The Self Esteem

The knowledge every parent must come into when it comes to self esteem is that consistency is crucial; saying good things about a child to him or her at one point and contradicting yourself at another can cause more damage than you can imagine to a child’s self esteem.

Every individual knows that confidence and self esteem are two basic human characteristics that help an individual to plunge into the jungle of life and come out victorious; absence of these two traits can spell disaster for an individual.

A parent or parents who have very little or no self esteem themselves are in the first place, poor role models for their children and can hardly teach their kids about self esteem; as a parent, practicing what you preach should be your motto…it helps the child grow more maturely.

The best gift you could ever give your child is to believe in his/her and his/her abilities or talents because eventually, that confidence will help your child carve out a definite identity for his or herself. You should know that a good self esteem will help your child feel secure about his identity and reduce the chances of him straying away to join gangs or unsavory people in a bid to discover himself.

Even spouses need to be encouraged with words of praise and compliments as this will help them feel good about themselves. Contrary to the notion that being aloof helps children find their own independence, being aloof actually hurts a child and may cause him/her to blame himself or herself and eventually cause a low self esteem; be as close as possible to your children.

You should be aware of the fact that enthusiasm is a trait that helps you to view challenges and problems from a perspective most people wouldn’t…..a child who is coached to be enthusiastic in spite of daunting situations can prevail against anything; this responsibility should not be taken lightly by the parents of a child.